It’s times like these that we really begin to thank God for life. If you didn’t realize how prescious life is, i’m sure you do now; we really are our brother’s keeper. I began teaching a GED class earlier this year. When I was told I couldn’t go to work I thought I would crack up. I miss seeing my adults. I don’t ever remember a time in 23 years of public school that I could ever say that. It’s true you don’t miss your water till the well runs dry.
I’m doing other things to keep busy: I’ve cleaned every room in the house, I’ve binge watched all the shows on Netflix. I’ve taken walks, I’ve emailed all my friends. All that took about a week. I’ve had enough peace and solitude for a life time. I do understand that it is necessary to maintain good health, and I will comply. I’m in the senior category, as my son continues to remind me. I’m being careful. Staying home, but every day I turn on the news and ask the question, Is it over yet? I guess not.
I was on Facebook the other day, one of the shelters that I normally contribute too was in need of water, so I went to the grocery store to get water, only to realize there is a limit on the amount of water you can purchase. I thought about buying toilet paper for the shelter as well, until I realized there wasn’t any on the shelves. I told myself, There is no need to panic, God is still in control. THIS TOO SHALL PASS. Life will return to normal. We just have to be careful how we treat each other during this crisis, when this is over that is the only image that remains. Please take the time to pray for our leaders, all of them. They need our support, not criticism. When you know better, you do better. After all we are all in this thing together.
Have you ever heard some thing so profound, but so simple. I was a speaker at a woman’s conference on domestic violence over the weekend. Another speaker was telling us that she was having an argument with her husband. He looked her straight in the eyes and said, “you have 20 minutes.” She asked him, “What am I supposed to do in that time.” The answer was simple. Do what ever you need to do to get past this anger, this frustration. ?Take a walk, ride your bike, throw something, walk the dog, paint, sew etc. Do something constructive, the anger is doing nothing but stealing your time and energy. I sat there with those words twirling around in my head. You have 20 Minutes. I thought about. What would help me? I know when something hits me so profoundly it’s God telling me, STOP, LOOK, and LISTEN. So I asked myself, how can I apply this to my life. I’m glad I asked myself that question. Here is what I came up with.
Own it, what ever it is you (I) had a part in it- what part did you play in causing the anger? It’ never just any one person’s fault. It’ takes two people to argue. In my case, it’s usually that I didn’t speak my truth. I didn’t give voice to my true feelings and i’m left feeling frustrated. It’s OK to admit that you messed up.
Deal with it- What are you going to do differently next time. It may mean changing things in your life to avoid this frustration. In most cases it means avoiding certain people. Write it out. Make a list of the things you could have done differently. Call a friend. It helps to hear yourself say the problem out loud. You’re not necessarily seeking their advice, you just need to get it out of you. What ever you have to do to maintain you peace it’s worth it.
Move ON– probably the most important point. LET IT GO! Don’t dwell on the problem. Turn off the tape. Have you ever had a scenario that played over and over in your head like a broken record. Grab the thought the minute it hits your mind and think of something positive. I have found that one of the reasons that I hang on to old situations and circumstances is that I forgave the other person, but I didn’t forgive myself. What ever it takes to get you to move on from a problem do it; you are worth it, your time is to valuable to deal with dead stuff. Besides anything dead should be buried.
Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9
Peace is a precious thing. You have to guard it like a precious diamond. We are bombarded on a daily basis with things that bother, irritate and frustrate us to NO end. With this fact in mind I decided that I have to guard my peace at all cost. I can’t do anything about the horrible things that happen around me in the world and most recently in my neighborhood. But, you can bet I can do something about the things that I allow to come into my inner space, in my personal orbit.
I came to this conclusion over the past few weeks. I was confronted with an issue with my son, mind you he is a grown man, but I had decided that I knew what was best for him in a situation that he was dealing with. When I realized that he was doing what he felt was best and going on about his business, which left me stressed and out of peace. Well I came to myself and let the situation go, instantly I felt a since of calm.
I am a nurturer and a rescuer by nature. I take everything and every bodies problems to heart. That’s just who I am. But it has come a time when I have to realize that this is not God’s will for my life. I can’t fix the world. I can’t change anything. Life happens, but I don’t have to let other people’s issue take hold on me. People will be people and that’s OK. I don’t have to agree, understand or be a part of the situation. I just have to be the best me possible.
+ John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
Let not you heart be troubled. I can’t fix everything, and I certainly don’t need to be a part of everything. LET IT GO! It’s Not my battle. Every tub has to sit on it’s own bottom. I can maintain my peace when I mind my own business.