Have you ever been in a situation that you know in your heart was not in your best interest; or maybe, it is a toxic relationship, and it’s run its course, but you are still hanging on. I hope I’m not the only one that’s guilty of holding on to friendships that have worn out their welcome in your life. Everyone is telling you; Let It Go! Move on, Get Over IT!
So, you decide to heed the warning of your loved ones and remove yourself from these harmful situations. So what’s next? How do you move on? You can’t erase the memories from your mind. Out of sight doesn’t translate to out of mind. It’s not that easy. Letting Go is not as easy as people tend to make it appear.
The problem with letting go is figuring out what your next move is. How will you replace the toxic, old, and familiar situation with a new opportunity? Remember, at one time, the relationship did serve a purpose in your life, albeit the meaning is long gone.
Without that something to move on to, you may find yourself slipping back into old habits; let’s be honest, it’s not like you deleted all those old phone numbers.
So how do you start the process of moving on without all the pain?
- Acknowledge your part in it, accept the pain, guilt, and shame and let it go.
- Stop second-guessing yourself won’t help (you made the decision, now live with it).
- Forgive yourself, don’t beat yourself up. You’re human.
- Recognize that he/or she was not the RIGHT one for you.
- Don’t ruminate (relive every minute of your past). Let sleeping dogs lie.
- Remember your purpose, and refocus your attention.
It’s never easy to give up, even when we know it’s for the best, but you’re not giving up; you’re just moving on.
Philippians 3: 13-14 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before 14. I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
I love it. It makes me think about the relationship book that I had started on a few years back and I never completed it, but now you makes me want to go back and complete it.
Yes, its time to go back, refocus, and pick that project back up.Let the past stay in the past and move on. Thank you for sharing. Denise