Have you ever gone through a situation, when it was over you wondered, “Why the heck did I have to go through that?” Well, you can stop wondering. The situation was designed for you. None of us are exempt from trials and problems. Every test is an opportunity for you to learn and grow. All of us have areas that we still need to work on. But I would like to suggest that when you have gone through and you’ve made it out alive; use what you learned to help someone. Share your newfound knowledge. By sharing the pain with the right person, you can also get rid of the guilt and the shame; you get to someone else to avoid the same mistakes.
We tend to see things in a tunnel during a hurtful situation. It’s all about me. Why is this happening to me? Lick your wounds, get through the pain, and prayerfully grow from it. Take what you learned and strengthen your brother. Growth is evident when you pray for the next person that may have to suffer the same circumstance. A few weeks I allowed myself to get caught up in a position. It didn’t take long to realize that the person I was involved with didn’t mean me any good. I was feeling bad about myself. Asking myself questions: What were you thinking? Why didn’t you see this for what it was? After I stopped whining I could think. I didn’t want don’t want anyone else to go through as I had; so, I began to pray for myself. I asked for strength and clarity when faced with another circumstance. I’m not naïve enough to think I won’t have to go through something like this again. Then I began to pray for others, who might fall victim to the same scam. It was then that I knew God allowed me to go through this because he knew he could trust me with the pain and know that it would propel me forward.
Pain is part of the process. Letting go of the anger is your release. Praying for others provides healing and it will lead you to a resolution.
There is a story in the Bible of the woman at the well. I’ve heard this story preached hundreds of times. It’s so familiar that I didn’t take the time to read and inspect the text. The gist of the story is that Jesus had an encounter with a woman at the well. He told her about her situation. I believe he knew her reaction would be to go and tell others; by doing so she helped someone else in the process. Jesus knew he could trust her to hear the truth about herself and move forward.
The woman then left her waterpot, and went her way into the city, and saith to the men. Come, see a man, which told me all things that ever I did: is not this the Christ?